People often talk about wanting to have a “good death”. What dying well means is different for each person, shaped by their attitudes, cultural background, spiritual beliefs and medical treatments.
Think about what dying well means to you. You might find it is important to:
know that death is coming and have some understanding of what to expect
have some control over pain relief and other symptoms
be able to retain some control over where death occurs and how it happens
maintain a sense of dignity
have the opportunity to prepare for death
reconcile damaged or broken relationships
have the chance to say goodbye
resolve regrets
be able to have a say in end-of-life care and ensure your wishes are respected.
There are different ways to die well. Some people see staying at home as the key to dying well, but others feel more supported spending their last days in a hospital or palliative care unit. It is important that your family, friends and health care team understand what matters most to you.
Open conversations and planning ahead for dying can also help family members and friends cope better with the grief and loss they may experience (bereavement). They may feel a sense of peace knowing your preferences were respected.